It’s official. The holidays are on top of us and winter is rearing it’s cold, dreary head. We actually had our first snow a few days ago so so that makes it real. For me this time of year, is very stressful. Don’t get me wrong, I love it; in fact Christmas is my favoite thing ever, but there’s a lot going on so it can also be very overwhelming. In fact I feel overwhelmed a lot lately. I’m not complaining, because it’s a good thing that I have so much to take care of. It means work is busy, the blog is doing well, the kids are active and life is moving right along, but it also means that I’m tired…a lot.
When I get tired I’m not happy to admit, but the truth is that intimacy with my husband suffers. I just want to relax, or sleep, or chill by the fireplace when I have down time and I’m simply not in the mood…ever. This is not good, and I know that so since I know this about myself, I’ve had to find things that make me a better wife when this attitude strikes. Not only for hubby’s benefit, but mine too.
- No electronics in the bedroom. The bedroom is for sleeping and for intimacy. If you and hubby are watching TV, checking Facebook and even working when you’re in the bedroom, in bed, you’re connecting with everyone but each other. This is a habit that I’m still trying to break. I’m the worst at setting “office hours” and unplugging. I feel the more I work the further ahead I am, but for every professional step forward I take, not eliminating this aspect from the bedroom and using that time to connect with my husband instead, keeps moving me further back in that area of life. So just turn them off and see what happens.
- Date night. Yes you’ve heard it a million times, but I’m not going to tell you what to do on date night. Stay in, go out, spend money freely, be frugal, that’s up to you and your partner, but just be sure to have one. You need time…time without your kids. It’s healthy and it can even be fun to do adult things and have adult communications so make sure you schedule the time to do it on a regular basis.
- Adjust the temperature. The physical temperature in your home or bedroom. I’m all about saving money but keeping the bedroom too cold can backfire. I know this personally because I’m a person that doesn’t like being cold. If it’s cold I bundle up, sweats, socks, blankets, the whole bit. Warm and cozy yes, but not sexy. You may think turning the temp down will allow you to snuggle up with your partner for warmth, but the fight to keep warm may just backfire so make the temp comfortable so that the eskimo layers don’t get in the way of those loving physical touches.
- Fiera®. When we’re stressed, when we’re tired, we (women) don’t always heat up under the hood like we wish we would. It’s not for the lack of wanting to be intimate with our partner, but sometimes we’re just not wired in a way that our bodies react the way our brains say they should. For those times, there’s something out there to help and it’s called Fiera.
Women’s sexual wellness is not addressed as often as it should be. As we all face times that we lack desire, time or effort to engage with our loved ones, we should not be embarrassed about our sexual drive (or lack thereof!). Fiera is a small, fast acting, hands-free product that is designed to encourage blood flow and lubrication, warming up women’s body for a more satisfying intimate experience. It’s literally helps your body do what your brain has wanted it to do all along. It’s considered a “before-play” product using a unique combination of soft suction and stimulating vibration to bring back that feeling of wanting to have sex. That’s over half the battle!
If you’re curious, and you want to learn more about the Fiera experience and women’s sexual wellness please visit the Fiera website. I think you’ll be glad you did.
I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.
Michele saysNovember 30, 2015 at 2:19 pm
A lot of women probably experience what you go through on occasion. And I totally agree-put me in a cold room and all desire just flies out the window! This just might help some that are having this problem.
Debi @ Life Currents saysDecember 1, 2015 at 9:11 am
This info will be very helpful for lots of people. It’s super cold in my house right now. Maybe I need to turn the heat on.
Crystal saysDecember 1, 2015 at 10:41 am
I agree about the temperature. I love my thick, cozy sweats but they leave a lot to be desired.
Nicole Escat saysDecember 1, 2015 at 3:46 pm
This would be very helpful to many. Thank for sharing.