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The Day I Almost Gave Up – Living With Chronic Pain

April 10, 2015 by Alison 7 Comments

I pride myself in being strong, and toughing things out and not whining and really just dealing with life with an optimistic attitude and not letting things get me down. That’s why yesterday…yesterday was a tough day for me. It was the day that I finally admitted defeat, I broke and I cried…I actually cried because I just don’t know what to do any more. I guess you kind of need the back story to understand so here it goes…

LivingWithChronicPain

I’m a relatively healthy gal. Maybe a few pounds overweight (and by a few I really mean like 30), but nothing horribly bad. I just can’t quit the slurpees y’all, but I wouldn’t say I’m totally unhealthy. When I delivered my daughter a little over three years ago my epidural went terribly wrong…the delivery went fine, but the epidural went to high and I couldn’t feel anything below my neck and then once it wore off I was in such pain in my back, shoulders, and neck that I was unable to get out of bed for a solid week. I basically missed the first week of my daughters life because I couldn’t even use the restroom or bathe without help. Thank god for my husband, who had never cared for a newborn (we met when my son was 4 1/2), he was amazing with Bug. However, that was the beginning of my pain.

 

By the time my maternity leave was up and I had to go back to work and I had recovered enough to be “normal” and I really thought that although it was a slow process things were going to go back to normal and for a while, it really seemed like they did. I’d tense up easier than before and occasionally get a tension headache, but nothing a few Advil didn’t help. Over the last year things have been getting progressivly worse though, the occasional tension has evolved into constant issue. The 4-6 Advil a day increased to a dozen or more just to take the edge off. The headaches have evolved into migraines and we’re talking 3 or 4 a week. I spend my days not focusing on my work, my kids, and my husband, but fighting pain and trying keep the migraines at bay. The past 3 months or so have been the worst of it…I’ve been a terrible employee, mother, and wife. I know my family is tired of hearing “I don’t feel well” or “I have a headache”. I try to keep it to myself but some days I hurt so bad that I’m nauseous and can’t do anything but lie down and definitely not be productive at work or remotely helpful with the household obligations. It sucks.

 

My Bug at 6 mo. old. This is the child that broke me, and yes, it's been totally work every painful moment.

My Bug at 6 mo. old. This is the child that broke me, and yes, it’s been totally worth every painful moment.

 

Yes I’ve gone to the doctor and tried to get help with the pain management. My doctor of 20+ years has not be helpful. Bless his heart I think because I rarely seek medical help, I just push through things and don’t really complain, he doesn’t get the severity of how bad things have gotten. I recently changed physicians, to an entirely new clinic and they prescribed some meds that they were hopeful would help until tests could be run, x-rays reviewed, and whatever else needs to be done to get to the bottom of the problem and find a solution. A week into the new prescription though and I’ve gotten no relief. Today was another migraine day, the second this week, and I even had to leave work early because I just couldn’t fight through the pain anymore and on my drive home I broke down. I sobbed the whole 15 miles from my office to the house. I feel like I have no control and I’ve remained hopeful that something was going to help but today, I just felt defeated.

 

Now what? I don’t know. I put on my big girl panties and deal with it. I think I needed a good outlet because pretending everything is fine when you hurt like hell, and just don’t want to seem whiney is hard…and it just happened to be today on the drive home. I have a follow up with the new doc next week so we shall see…hopefully we can try something else and go from there. In the meantime work needs to get done, kids need a happy mama, and hubby needs an attentive wife so it shall be, at least to the best of my ability until we find a solution for this.

 

Thanks for letting me vent and as always, thanks for reading.

*This post was actually written a little over a month ago. There have been some developments since then which I hope you’ll come back and read about as I’ll be sharing the information over the next few weeks in hopes that it could help others in some way.

Filed Under: Family, Healthy Living, My Life Chronicles Tagged With: back pain, chronic pain, pain relief

Comments

  1. Crystal says

    April 10, 2015 at 8:44 pm

    Oh gosh, you poor thing. It’s really frustrating to feel like there’s no relief. I wasn’t getting any relief from my own doctor, so I started going to get acupuncture. It was just what I needed. I am glad to know you are finding some solution.

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  2. Robin (Masshole Mommy) says

    April 11, 2015 at 4:25 am

    You poor thing! I had no idea anything like this could happen from getting an epidural. Can you sue the hospital/anesthesiologist to pay for your medical bills at least?

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  3. Heather says

    April 11, 2015 at 8:16 am

    It sounds like you have some issues with some vertebrae in your back, that could have been damaged with the placement of the epidermal. I really hope someone can find help for you. You know, I know you saw that doctor for 20 years, but how hard is it to say, you know let’s look a little deeper and order some X-rays, instead of here’s a higher dose of meds to help mask what is going on. I hate when doctors do that. Chronic pain shouldn’t be something you have to live with. It should be thoroughly investigated.

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    • Alison says

      April 11, 2015 at 7:00 pm

      You’re absolutely right Heather. In the past few weeks I’ve had X-Rays and MRI, and there are some pretty serious issues with my C3 vertebrae. At this point we’re trying to decide if surgery is the way to go, or if there are other things we can try to try and prolong something that invasive.So while we still don’t have a firm solution, we’re moving in the right direction which is much better than not having a foggy clue 4-6 weeks ago.

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  4. Michele says

    April 11, 2015 at 3:10 pm

    Oh I certainly hope they are able to alleviate that terrible pain you are going through. It can’t be easy and sometimes being strong is what gets us into more trouble–at least with doctors. They don’t always get it–or if they get it then they are not sure what to do about it. Just try and hang in there if only for your family who are probably the only ones who understand. Meanwhile healing thoughts are headed your way until they find something to help you.

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  5. Debra says

    April 12, 2015 at 10:21 am

    Migraines are so awful. After a car accident a couple years ago I was having 28 a month. Luckily I found a guy that could help and I am down to one a month!

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  6. Holly @ Woman Tribune says

    April 12, 2015 at 11:24 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. Chronic pain is unique. It can make an otherwise hopeful person who loves life feel kind of hopeless. As you can probably imagine, I can relate. You are not alone.

    Reply

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