You might have been married for decades or decided to move in together after a few months of dating. With the world in crisis, there is a lot of pressure on all of us. Even the strongest relationships will find this situation difficult. Financial pressures, worries about loved ones and anxiety around or health could cause us to take our eye off the ball when it comes to love.
Our regular routine is out of the window, and it’s likely we will learn things about our partners that we hadn’t noticed before. Maybe we’ve slipped into a more relaxed way of living, and the spark that we had has dimmed a little. Right now, we all need a little comfort and holding on to the one you love is more important than ever. So, how do we make sure we keep the love fires burning during these uncertain times?
Communication is the most essential thing in a relationship. In a time of crisis, even more so. We may chat every day, but are we talking about the stuff that matters. Do you know how your partner feels right now? Perhaps they are worrying more than they are letting on. Make time every week to talk and whatever your partner has to say, just listen. There aren’t many answers right now, but letting everything out and knowing you have someone that loves you enough to listen is really special. It reminds us we are in it together and helps a stronger feeling of support and trust develop.
To help you stay close and connected, take time in your day to do kind acts for one another. This could be as simple as making a cup of tea for your partner when they are working. Perhaps you notice the children are being more active than usual, so you spend a little more time with them to give your partner a break. You could also make a grand romantic gesture. You could send flowers or buy them a present. Unexpected gifts, no matter how small, can lift your spirits and make you feel valued and appreciated.
Remember the good times you shared. Maybe you could sit down and go through your photo albums or sort through all the snaps you’ve taken on your phone. This can help remind you of all the beautiful times you have shared and restore hope that one day, you will share them again. You could even go through all your Facebook photos from the last 10 years and see how much you have changed. There will be lots of memories that make you laugh and will make both of you feel happy and cherished. If you are sharing your home with your parents or your children, it’s a great way of getting to know about each other’s lives even more.
Keeping our love alive now is more important than ever. Make sure you take the time to have date nights, even if it’s something as simple as recreating a cinema in your lounge and popping some corn.
Keep each other close and remind each other how valued and loved you are.